“房子買在哪？”這是很多夫妻結婚時都要考慮的頭等大事。大部分人協商的結果都是選在兩人工作地點的中間。但近日刊登在“果殼網”上的一項報道指出，夫妻若每天出門時一個向左走，一個向右走，可能對婚姻幸福感帶來負面影響。
婚姻情感學家指出，夫妻擁有共同的目標感，會對婚姻關係産生積極作用。例如夫妻齊心協力買房子、共同撫養小孩，這都能帶來相同的目標感。而每天上班兩人朝著一個方向走，時間久了也能産生“奔著同一個方向”、“為了同一個目標”的感受。美國實驗社會心理學研究者就此進行了相關調查。首先他們調查了280位居住在美國的已婚上班族，平均婚齡為8年。這些人評價了他們對目前婚姻的滿意度，並給出雙方工作地點和家庭住址的位置，同時提供了一些其他資料，如各自上班所需要的時間、所用的交通工具等。結果發現，夫妻上班同一個方向的家庭婚姻更幸福。接下來，研究者又在中國香港對189位上班族進行了相同的調查，得到了同樣的結果。
研究者分析，要維持婚姻幸福，找到雙方的共同點和共同為之奮鬥的目標很關鍵。如果早晨出門朝著相反的方向走，時間久了難免産生“各奔東西”的感覺。不過，研究者也表示，這並不是婚姻幸福的絕對因素。
A handful of tools
Here are some online tools I've been using with a lot of satisfaction. Of course, your mileage may vary:
Feedblitz is a reliable, handmade alternative to Feedburner and other corporate solutions. They handle the email and RSS feeds to this blog, and Phil is just a pleasure to work with.
Ziggeo is the tool I used to preview thousands of applications for my summer internship. Used correctly, this is an extraordinary way to get insight on a large number of people in a very short period of time. I could see it being a great screening device for anyone running ads on Craigslist, for example.
Typepad hosts this blog, and always has. People ask me why I don't switch, and my simple answer: it's not broken. I like having a service I can pay for, because when you buy something, you're the customer, not the product.
In search of the obvious answer
The obvious answer to your problem isn't obvious yet, but once someone finds it, it will be.
That's the way obvious answers work. They're not obvious because they're easy to find, they're obvious because, in fact, there's an answer.
Most problems don't have obvious answers, which is why you should demote them from the list of things worth obsessing over. Gravity, for example, is a problem with no obvious answer. You're never going to be able to fly like Superman, and the sooner you let that one go, the quicker you'll be able to work on something productive.
【特約作家朱子】
熱火死裡逃生，拿下總冠軍賽生死第六戰，保住衛冕一線生機，詹姆斯用一場大三元(32分、11助攻、10籃板)，展現他想要贏球的決心和努力。
從數據上來看，詹姆斯打得無可挑剔，他不斷協防補漏，決勝期煽了鄧肯火鍋，一對一釘死帕克，降低帕克突破、分球帶來的傷害，他為熱火隊做了一切需要他貢獻的贏球手段。
但詹姆斯在決勝時刻的進攻猶豫，把握性不高，進攻手段並不凸顯，第六戰最後一分鐘甚至發生兩次要命失誤，差一點葬送熱火反撲和贏球契機。
球迷專家非常挑剔詹姆斯，無可厚非，因為他是聯盟MVP，難免不斷被拿出來跟喬丹、布萊恩做比較，熱火在關鍵、決勝時刻，更需要他掌握球權和負責取分，如果詹姆斯在最後兩分鐘的進攻把握性可以更高，減少失誤，甚至打得更果決、聰明，熱火將勢不可擋。
